Liu Feng Shui Grand
View is a philosophy defining 130 factors that affect who you are. This is the
eighteenth article in a series presenting all 130 factors. Please refer to the
first article for a complete introduction to this
series. Today we will discuss Personality.
Everyone is born with a distinct persona. Even as a baby, your parents can get an idea of your personality by observing your emotions, attitudes, and behavior patterns.
Personality types range from quiet and serious, to rebellious and adventurous. These innate characteristics play an important role in defining who you are and who you ultimately become.
For instance, some people are shy, passive, and cerebral. They enjoy solitude and may feel nervous or awkward at social events. These modest types might not prefer to be leaders and do best working behind-the-scenes and providing support. They tend to enjoy close one-on-one relationships rather than socializing in large groups.
On the flipside, those who are naturally carefree in their ways and willing to take risks enjoy meeting new people and making friends of all kinds. Active in engaging relationships, they tend
to be initiators and leaders. They thrive in positions in which they can interact with people and may feel frustrated when they are constrained and not encouraged to express themselves.
As an example, someone who is social and expressive by nature is better off not being assigned to detail-oriented monotonous tasks. Not only will this person do a substandard job, his or her self-esteem will be adversely affected. When a personality trait is suppressed, psychological side effects can result in abnormal, aggressive behavior, or manifest as physical ailments or bad habits.
Parents, friends, partners, relatives, bosses, and employees benefit when they have a good understanding of each other’s personalities. With understanding we can better support each other and not mistake a personality trait as a personal affront or criticism.
Understand and be true to your personality. Part of successful self-cultivation is self-acceptance. When you accept your shortcomings, you can find positive alternatives, and when you accept your strengths you can make the most of them. By appreciating your true personality, you and those around you create a stronger foundation for establishing goals. As the great Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu once said,
"He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is